Google told me that the average person makes 35,000 decisions in a day ... that's a lot of decisions! Never mind if you are carrying the mental load for your family because that adds a shit ton more decisions!
I just don't have the capacity to make anymore of them today. I have made enough and I am done. I do not have the mental energy to stay 2 steps ahead of what my family, my employer, AND my business needs to be prepared for tomorrow (never mind beyond that!). I can barely muster the mental fortitude to patiently deal with the after school crash that comes for my kid after holding his cookies together all day at school. Homework, need I say more! I am cross eyed from managing the family calendar, and making sure everyone has rides to where they have to be and the proper equipment, supplies and snacks they need! Mustering the professional demeanor to deal with a less than professional situation with an employer – nope, can’t do it today! Making decisions about the future finances of my business, and of my family – my brain feels out of focus! I don’t want to think about dinner, the beds that have no sheets, making lunches for tomorrow, putting together a grocery list, the errands that are undone, the parties I have not RSVP’d to, or the fact that none of us have clean underwear in our drawers!
Because the mental load of being a mom is real, and it’s big, and it makes you want to crawl in a hole and hide some days. And despite having an incredibly capable brain, it makes you have decision fatigue!!
So if you, like me, are all done with decisions for the day … STOP MAKING THEM! Ask your kids or your partner for help with the errands or the lunches or whatever is on your plate. Set boundaries with people who are taking advantage of you or who are setting unrealistic expectations. Tell people no! (No is a complete sentence by the way!!) Let your kids eat cereal in front of the TV tonight for dinner and sit in your PJ’s and join them. Turn off your work email, turn off social media, tune out of the “noise” and connect with people who matter to you. Focus your mental energy on positive things and people that fill you up! Tell people you are having a hard day and let them care for you!
REST, REGROUP, and get back at it tomorrow!! It’s OK to slow down and ask for help! Its OK to say no! It’s OK to move away from toxic relationships or work environments that make you feel like shit! It’s OK to stop making decisions for a bit! Actually, I think it’s imperative to our sanity to do all of these things!! We are smart, and capable, and loving, and amazing but we can’t pour from an empty cup!
Hi, I'm Tina! Life Coach, Mom and Lawyer who loves small furry dogs and big glasses of wine and knows that increasing your self awareness and connecting with your purpose can be an interesting (and sometimes challenging) journey. That's why I'm here to help!!