In my line of work I get to chat with lots of women, most of whom are moms and all of whom deal with the BS and frustrations of life (we all do ... no matter how Facebook perfect some people make their lives look on the outside).
The other day I was chatting with group of moms and one of them relayed the story of how every night when she is trying to cook dinner she usually feels like a failure because the $h!t hits the fan in her house right around that time and she struggles to get anything done and keep her patience (ie. not scream at her kids). She told us how one night recently she just "gave up" and hung out with her kids instead of making the dinner she had planned. That feeling of failure consumed her because she wasn't able to do what she set out to do -cook dinner - despite the fact that she had fun with her kids. So we shifted the conversation and talked about how she FELT in that moment when she was hanging out with her kids, and how they felt.
She realized that even though she felt like she failed at dinner, she was actually more relaxed and they had a lot of fun together. But she was so focused on the "failure" of not making dinner and piecing together a meal for her family that she wasn't able to see it! Once she shifted her perspective and was able to see the good in the situation instead of fixating on her "failure" she was able to let go of the guilt and appreciate the time she had with her kids.
I challenge you to shift your perspective sometimes.
When you feel like a failure, when you don't think things are going well, when you didn't reach a goal when you thought you would ... SHIFT YOUR PERSPECTIVE! Look at things from a different angle. Try your best to find the positive, the encouraging, the uplifting parts of your story and focus on those. And don't be so hard on yourself!
Hi, I'm Tina! Life Coach, Mom and Lawyer who loves small furry dogs and big glasses of wine and knows that increasing your self awareness and connecting with your purpose can be an interesting (and sometimes challenging) journey. That's why I'm here to help!!