I recently did a search for articles/blogs/whatever on finding greater life balance as a mom and I came across a ton of strategies for time management, planning ahead, being organized and delegating (including “involving dad and the kids in household duties” because you know that's our job too!). But let’s be real here, these “strategies” may help your life LOOK more balanced, but will you FEEL balanced?
What if we – as busy moms – changed the way we define life balance? What if we stopped trying to fit it all in and instead focused more time on the core things that bring us and our families the most joy?
As a life coach and a mom myself I talk with a lot of mothers. When we talk about life balance we don’t talk about what their schedule looks like but rather what their life feels like. Do they feel out of whack, pulled in a million directions and sometimes lost in the shuffle? Or do they feel happy, fulfilled and like they have meaningful relationships despite the fact that their lives are really, really (sometimes insanely) busy?
For me, life balance does not mean each task gets equal amount of time and attention but rather it’s that feeling that comes from being intentional about what you choose to devote your time to, and ensuring that those things fill your proverbial cup. It does not mean you won’t be busy or that you won’t have days where you feel overwhelmed because you are juggling a lot of balls. But, it does mean that you will have a greater sense of fulfillment in
your life because you intentionally CHOSE which balls to juggle and how many of them you have in the air!
I know what you are thinking, easier said than done, right? I thought that at first too to be honest and it took me a while to embrace this whole notion. But after some practice – and a bit of hindsight – I saw that when I take the time to define my priorities (I’m talking deeper than just “my family is my priority”), am aware (honestly) of the things I do spend my time on, then do the work of drawing boundaries, asking for help and letting go – I feel so much calmer and happier! And to me THAT is balance!
If you are ready to dive a little deeper into this yourself, my guide to Choosing Balance walks you through the self-reflection necessary to help you find balance on your own terms. Sign up to receive your free copy here.
Cheers to living your Life on Purpose,
Hi, I'm Tina! Life Coach, Mom and Lawyer who loves small furry dogs and big glasses of wine and knows that increasing your self awareness and connecting with your purpose can be an interesting (and sometimes challenging) journey. That's why I'm here to help!!