I love being a mom and I love my kids more than life but let’s be honest here, being a parent is freaking hard! Our kids can sometimes have days where they make our lives and the lives of everyone around them holy hell! They can be difficult, make you cry and create more stress and worry than you know how to deal with. But even on those hellish days when you earn your grey hair, who do you see when you watch them peacefully sleeping at night? Do you see a failure not worthy of your love or effort? Or do you see the wonderful kid that is in there … even if she hides sometimes? I am guessing that you still see the amazing person your kid is! You may also be planning a parenting strategy change to deal with behavior or attitude or whatever … but you look at your kids and you know they are worthy, lovable and amazing people!
What if we were able to look at ourselves the same way?
Like on those bad days when we feel like we're failing and that we suck at life and motherhood. Or on those days where we look in the mirror and berate ourselves for the extra pudge we may carry, or the size of our nose or how our pants don’t fit the way they use to. Or the times when we are overwhelmed and feel like our schedules and lives are spinning out of control and we aren’t the woman, mother, wife, friend or colleague we want to be.
Imagine how much better you would feel if you could look at yourself at the end of the day like you do your kids. You would see the good, bad, and ugly (and maybe you’d strategize in a constructive and loving way to make changes if you need to) but you would still love yourself, feel worthy and know you are capable of great things.
So how do you get there? This is what I try and do:
The next time you have negative self-talk do yourself a favor and ask “would I judge and criticize my kids this way?” If the answer is no … stop doing it to yourself. You deserve better!
Hi, I'm Tina! Life Coach, Mom and Lawyer who loves small furry dogs and big glasses of wine and knows that increasing your self awareness and connecting with your purpose can be an interesting (and sometimes challenging) journey. That's why I'm here to help!!